soul lag

soul lag? have you experienced it?

i just returned back home to australia after being home in canada for the past 6 weeks.

(yes, i did write ‘home’ twice. i always say my heart lives in two places – canada and australia are both my home – yet the truth is that i don’t feel 100% percent settled in either place!)

since travelling there and back, i’ve been feeling so out of sorts – kind of disconnected, kind of lost, kinda “blue”… even feeling physically unwell just to go along with feeling low energetically, emotionally, and mentally.

a gorgeous friend said to me: it sounds to me like you have soul lag.

i knew she hit the nail on the head because those words made me cry. i wasn’t too sure what she meant exactly, i just knew that the words felt like me.

soul lag.

i asked around about what those words mean and people shared some amazing ideas.

  • when travel but you leave a bit of yourself behind
  • we leave soul fragments in places we experience big emotional events
  • when we travel from a place that feels good it take time for our soul to catch up
  • our physical body lands but it takes more time for the soul, the mind, and the emotions to catch up
  • when we experience huge growth/expansion there is a lag for the rest of you to catch up, to fit that ‘bigness’ into the rest of life
  • when your soul experiences bigness but it doesn’t quite fit yet into your life, or you ‘smallify’ it in some way to fit your life, or to feel more safe
  • growth is happening at a soul level… there is something new on your way, a next level for your soul
  • having to adjust to a new version of yourself in a new place, disconnected from the sense of self we develop in a new place
  • making sense of what we’ve just experienced and wondering who we are now

i love these ideas and i think they can be true not just for being in a new place physically (like with travel) but in a new place emotionally, mentally, or energetically as well… growth and change and ‘travel’ can occur in lots of areas of life, creating a soul lag that needs to be honoured.

so how do we do that? how do we adjust to a new ‘place’?

i’ve used the lighthouse framework to brain storm some ideas. perhaps they will help you the next time you notice you are experiencing some soul lag!

the harbour: which is about being grounded and giving yourself some space

try: walking barefoot in the grass or sand; epsom salt baths & grounding essential oils; mindfulness exercises so you can ‘be where your feet are’; reciting a mantra of “it is safe to be here in this place”

the spiral staircase: which is about honouring your journey, honouring how you feel

try: let yourself feel sad, lost, blue, lonely, out of sorts… cry if you need to!; explore your feelings by journaling; raise your vibe by focusing on gratitude, love, joy, compassion etc.

the foundation: which is about your mindset

try: tapping into a positive mindset such as: what you learn now, you can teach later; tell yourself you’ve got this; try acting as if; do something to help someone else

the tower: which is about your surroundings, it’s the ‘vehicle’ that helps you shine

try: increasing the vibe of the place you are right now by decluttering, shifting/rearranging, making space for new; surrounding yourself with stuff that you love, taking care of your physical body

the beacon: which is about being seen & heard… being authentically, vulnerably, you

try: talking about how you feel, own it, say it out loud, speak up, write about it and share it with others (see i’m trying this one right now! lol.)

the inner light: which is about seeing yourself clearly, feeling lit up from with in

try: visualizing your future self (or the highest, brightest lighthouse version of you) who has come out of this on the other side – what would she want you to know?

the sky: which is about connecting to your soul, your source

try: meditation, reiki, prayer, surrender

(i’ve been doing the ‘untangle your cords’ meditation as a way of calling all the parts of my light back home, expanding that light within me, and allowing the ‘bigness’ of it to shine)

have you experienced something like soul lag in your life? how would you describe it? what are your strategies for adjusting to your ‘new place’? i would love to hear from you!

immense gratitude to denise litchfield and her lovely group the psychic playground for helping me to explore the idea of soul lag….  and to the incredible elevate self-leadership circle – these ladies are the best, most supportive people i know and together we’ve created an amazing place to do the work to rise up & shine our light… thank you for your love ladies.

would you like to learn more about the lighthouse framework, including concrete strategies for each component? grab the beautiful lighthouse keepers free digital magazine… it is both inspiring and practical!

shadow hunting

the darkness, the shadows, the storms…  i am curious about this part of the journey, because it’s the other side of the light.

in fact, it’s why i started talking about the ‘harbour’ of the lighthouse. i needed a place to acknowledge the darkness alongside the light. i needed to include a safe place where we could just BE in whatever it is we are experiencing.

so i am indeed curious to explore the darkness… i would like to be a shadow hunter peering into the darkness, shining a light on what needs to be seen.

i like the idea of firmly planting my two feet on the ground, facing the darkness head on, and proclaiming: “i’m going in!” – it creates a playfulness, a sense of curiosity and adventure, rather than seeing this as something hard, scary, or to be avoided at all costs!

and i don’t think being a shadow hunter is about being a shadow ‘fighter’ or shadow ‘conqueror’…. i don’t think that’s the point.

exploring the darkness doesn’t mean we are broken… it’s not about fixing it.

it’s about facing it.

knowing it.

owning it.

embracing it.

because perhaps in facing the darkness we will find our light.

in feeling our pain we will experience healing.

in knowing our fear we will discover courage.

in understanding our shame we will cultivate compassion… for ourselves.

in recognizing our biggest challenge we will uncover our greatest gift.

in seeing our demons we will be able to let them go… so they no longer hold the same power over us.

maybe, by owning the shadow side of ourselves – the stuff about us that we aren’t so good at, or proud of, or that we try to hide away – we will stop feeling less than because of it.

for no one is perfect. no one is all light, all the time. and placing that impossible expectation upon ourselves will always make us feel, in some way or another, like we are not enough.

maybe when we embrace our own shadows we will see that we are still worthy… worthy of love and joy and abundance and success and all of it.

maybe exploring our darkness is about deciding to just BE where we are, here and now, in our harbour. to stop avoiding, running, or hiding from the darkness… to stop pretending it isn’t there… but instead to set up camp inside of it, to decide: "this is it. this is a part of me. and i will build up from this place."

and so, HOW?

(this is how my brain works, it's not enough for me to say: 'oh yes, right, explore the darkness. that's nice.' my brain asks HOW?)

how do we explore our darkness? how do we confront our shadow self? how do we face our biggest storms, and come out the other side to shine our light?

that's what i am willing to try... to be a shadow hunter... to 'go on in' and see what i find.

what is self leadership?

  • what is self leadership? 
  • what has it got to do with building a lighthouse & being your own lighthouse keeper?
  • why does self leadership matter to the average person living their life?
  • how do you know you are ready for some self leadership, and how do you get started?

i am sharing my thoughts on self leadership, and why i believe the lighthouse is actually a beautiful framework to practice self leadership.

i would love to hear from you... what does the word "self-leadership" mean to you? what could it mean to you, if you had more of it in your life?

click here to watch the youtube video: https://youtu.be/1gMbLoTJX4Q
listen to the audio or read the transcript below.

self leadership.

 

my lighthouse keeper’s journey started at a time i was feeling lost, stuck, no mojo, no clear focus, not in the greatest place…not all that happy in my life… and i didn’t know what to do to change things.

i came across this quote by anne lammot:

“lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.”

and i thought… yes that’s what i want! i want to be a lighthouse! and so i began a quest of sorts to ignite my light, ignite my spark, to feel ignited and excited again… and that led me to start the lighthouse revolution as i realized overtime that there is more to the story than feeling ignited!

which is where the framework of the lighthouse comes from, because there are 7 components and every component

so my journey has been about…

exploring what ignites me and lights me up

sharing that with others & being of service to others

building something that i love, a life that i love

working on my mindset

working on my resistance and my blocks, getting myself unstuck

making my way through the darkness and storms

feeling connected to something bigger than me

and eventually these things became the 7 components of the lighthouse.

more recently i’ve been intrigued and inspired by the idea of self-leadership, because the more i think about it the more i feel that is what the lighthouse is, it’s a framework for self-leadership.

i’ve been talking about this lighthouse stuff for nearly 5 years… and the journey isn’t over, i don’t think you ever stop building your lighthouse. but at least i have the framework now, the path, the map, the blueprints to help me do the work, and that’s why i am so passionate about sharing it, i want everyone to have the framework! i want everyone to be able to build themselves a lighthouse so they can shine their light in the world, so they can be their highest & brightest self.

so i’m excited because i think this idea of self-leadership is a great way to describe what the lighthouse revolution is all about.

to me the word self-leadership very simply means being a leader to yourself.

rising up, speaking up, taking action, making a change, shining your light… by yourself, for yourself.

maybe you want to…

do something.

create something.

change something.

start something new.

go after something.

try something different.

…no one is going to grab your hand and do it for you.

if you feel like there has got to be something more than this, or there is something missing, or you don’t want to stay stuck, lost, stagnant, no mojo

or maybe you’ve been in that place of procrastination, paralysis, perfection – where you want things for yourself byt you can’t seem to take action

maybe you keep saying one day when… you have more time, more energy, you are more ready… well when is that one day going to come?

no one is going to come along and take you on that path… be that person or that magic bullet that fixes things for you

here’s the thing… this is your choice.

you don’t have to take that path.

you can stay stuck, safe, same, small.

you can wait for more time, money, energy.

you can choose to keep complaining, keep whinging ‘poor me, my life sucks, i am a victim.’

you can keep dreaming, keep longing, keep wishing for things… setting intentions, resolutions, goals, dreams, plans…

you can keep doing that until you are ready.

it’s your choice.

or… if you are ready, you can start taking your own path, forging your own trail, leading yourself… asking ‘what will we do here? something has got to give. and that something is me. it’s on me.’

let’s be clear.

it is a choice. it’s your choice. own it.

if you are not ready to be your own leader, own it. out loud. say ‘maybe one day. but not today. i’m not ready.’

if you are ready? what do you do? how do you start taking steps to lead yourself out of the place you are, and into the place you want to be?

by the way, you know what i think is awesome about this whole self-leadership thing?

you actually do get to take your path. you get to do your thing. focus on your journey. beat the drums for your own thing. it doesn’t affect anyone else or take away from anyone else’s journey. it’s yours! you might walk alongside someone else on a self leadership journey but this is all about you, it’s yours, you get to do it your way.

i think self leadership is about looking inwards, taking responsibility, taking ownership… saying ‘this is on me. i am the only one who has the capacity to make a change here, the only one with the capacity to look at what i want and choose to take a step towards it.’ wright or wrong, pass or fail… to start taking our own hand and leading ourselves forward.

i think it’s about prioritising, putting ourselves first… saying ‘this matters. i matter. what i want matters. and so i have got to figure out how to do it.’

it’s about fulfilling your potential.

seeking your purpose.

finding your passion & feeling lit up again.

being the highest, brightest version of yourself.

owning it. and doing it without guilt. because if you don’t own it, why would anyone else support you, cheer for you, or even just try to understand it.

so if you are ready to do the self-leadership thing… to say ‘i’m going to rise up by myself, for myself. i’m going to take action. i’m going to do it for me.’… here are some ideas to get you started.

1. look back at the road so far.

know what brought you here to have a clear picture of where you are going… understanding the road so far can open your eyes to the road ahead. seek understanding, awareness, clues, and signposts.

2. have a vision.

what is your destination here? if you’re leading yourself down a path have a destination, know where you are going and why. your why is what fills your tank… it’s important to know what fuels you… what gives you energy, passion, purpose, and drive.

know yourself… learning yourself is, i believe, one of the biggest parts of this self-leadership journey… you need to know you. what are your strengths, what do you value, what’s your personality type? because everything else you choose, every step you take, has to align with that.

(this is the ‘ignite your light’ part of the lighthouse… it starts with you!)

3. own it!

say it out loud. if you can’t say it, own it, by speaking up, by being seen, by saying ‘hey this is me, this is what i am working on, this is what matters, to me, this is the path i’m on’… if you can’t say it, it can be very hard to do it!

(this is the beacon of the lighthouse… it represents us speaking up!)

4. how will you get there?

this is about making your plans, choosing your steps and your strategies. what will you focus on? what will you choose to include into your world to support and serve what it is you say you want. it’s about giving yourself permission… what to focus on, say no to, change, or declutter.

(this is the tower of the lighthouse… it’s the tall structure, the vehicle, that helps you shine!)

5. work on your mindset.

your confidence, worthiness, valuing yourself enough to do this, being brave, backing yourself! saying ‘this matters to me so i am going to fight for it.’ nobody else is going to back you if you don’t back yourself first. be brave enough, confident enough, worthy enough, believe you matter enough, to take action.

(this is the foundation of the lighthouse… you don’t want to build on a wobbly foundation. make it strong by building up your mindset.)

6. get unstuck.

it’s important we shine a light on the stuff that comes up and gets in the way on this journey – stuckness, resistance, blocks, fears, worries, doubts, guilt, limiting beliefs. it’s all part of the journey, in fact the stuff that comes up as you lead this path to what you want, the person you want to be, it comes up for a reason.

you are the leader here, the warrior on this quest, and as you fight those dragons, overcome those obstacles, you grow! you become the best version of yourself. so have a willingness to explore your stuff, be curious, have fun! let the journey be as amazing as the destination.

(this is the spiral staircase of the lighthouse… it reminds us of our journey, every little step we take takes us closer to the top.)

7. come back.

understand that the journey will have darkness, storms, and shadows. have a willingness to just BE in those places, and know that you can come back to your path, you can change directions, you can start again, you can come back to what you want, you can come back to yourself, you can keep going.

(this is the harbour of the lighthouse… it reminds us we can come back to our light at any time.)

it can also help if you surround yourself with an ocean of love… if you have support, if you feel safe, if you have a sense of belonging… it can help you on your self-leadership journey.

8. connection.

the last thing that i think is important (and i have only begun to explore this myself) is feeling connected to something bigger than you, to your source, your inner guidance system or inner light, (whatever you want to call it). think of it as spirituality or connection to your soul or to your purpose or to feeling like the universe has your back.

(this is the sky above the lighthouse… a connection to the source of your light)

i feel like this is important and a lot of times i think we discount it. in fact most of us do some of these things really well and others not so well… they are not natural to us or not in our wheelhouse.

the lighthouse framework reminds us that all of these bits are important! they all make a difference.

learn what you are naturally good at, use it to help you on your journey of self-leadership. also learn what doesn’t come naturally to you…

for example, if speaking up doesn’t come naturally you can learn to get better at it. or if you notice you don’t feel at all connected to your soul, you don’t have strong spiritual beliefs or practice, or whatever allows you to feel connection, you could start to build it now.

if you have all of the components… the whole lighthouse, the whole framework… you have everything you need for self-leadership.

so keep exploring this and exploring yourself!

we are each on our own journey… taking our own path, forging our own trail… that’s what self-leadership is all about! but we can do it together. we can support each other, we can walk alongside each other. when each of us chooses to rise up and shine our light we inspire others to do the same as well.

a rising tide lifts all ships. let’s keep rising.

rise up, by yourself, for yourself. because what you want for yourself is worth it. you are worth it.

 

behind the scenes of overcoming stuckness

i'm having a bit of a celebration this week... it's the lighthouse revolution book's first birthday! i can't actually believe it has already been a year since this little baby finally came to life! 

it took 7 months from the time i started writing until the day the book started arriving into the hands of readers... but of course it took longer than that to let the idea build and grow, and to overcome my own resistance, in order to finally, make this little dream happen!

do you have a BIG dream... something you want to do, create, explore... or bring to life in some other way? 

i want to share a bit about the behind the scenes of bringing that book to life... the real truth about getting unstuck, overcoming resistance, taking action, and why it matters so much to do just that... why achieving this type of dream is actually about so much more than the dream itself.

whether you want to write a book, or there is something else you want to focus on or create or even change in your life... it's worth it. i promise.

in this video i am taking you step by step through my biggest blocks; you might be familiar with these...

  • yah right. it's never gonna happen! 
  • nope, i'm not there yet... i need more (training, experience, etc.)
  • still not ready... i'm waiting for everything to be figured out
  • actually... it's all too hard, too overwhelming, too much work
  • it's not the right time, i will do it when...
  • what if it's not good, not perfect, not helpful?
  • what if i hate it? i suck at it? what if it's awful? 
  • i will do all of this work and no one will buy, no one will care, it's just gonna flop

watch or listen to my journey through these obstacles here...

and just know this: i promise you there is a way through every block... the steps, the plans, the work, it's all figureoutable.... and the time will never actually be quite right, you will never actually be fully ready... but you can decide to start anyways.

just imagine if you started today?

one year from now, what could you be celebrating?

please give yourself permission to shine, the world is waiting on you!


to celebrate the book's first birthday we are having a #bookbirthdaybash... you can grab the print book, ebook, or audio book at a great birthday price this week! i am also excited to announce that i am now offering the navigate guide book in print - yep a real life workbook that you can hold in your hands and scribble away in! i also have something brand new to share... a quick & fun online class to help you create your lighthouse blueprints for one of your specific goals, intentions, or plans!

all of these on for special birthday prices this week only... pop over to check them out!

purpose + flow

“ok, i’m doing it! i’m living my purpose, i am showing up and shining my light, i’m hearing the call and taking the leap… so why the hell is it all so hard? i thought that when you were in alignment with your purpose everything was meant to flow but i feel blocked at every turn... why don’t i have any flow? what am i doing wrong here?”

we had a discussion about this over in elevate last month, and i don't normally post 'video blogs' but i wanted to share my elevate 'QnA' video here with you just in case you’ve felt the same frustration.

i know i have!

it’s seems so unfair doesn’t it? don’t you want to just rant at the universe? like: dude. i’m here. i’m holding up my end of the bargain. why aren’t you?

and this question is the exact reason that we are never done building our lighthouse… this journey is really just a big long spiral! take action… explore resistance, clear blocks, build mindset, heal & grow & evolve & learn… get new clarity… take action again.

so my quick answer is there is nothing wrong with you... you are not broken... this is how the journey is supposed to go! and there is nothing wrong with your purpose either… you haven’t gotten it all wrong. i do think there are ways to create more flow... it just might require you to think about flow in a new way!

in this video (or audio) i share...

  • what i think purpose really is and why you haven’t gotten it wrong just because things feel hard, things are going wrong, or you seem blocked at every turn
  • how you can shift your perspective - from blocks being obstacles & barriers in your path, towards them being opportunities & signposts that point to your next steps.
  • how flow isn’t about the physical stuff working out - the plans, actions, strategies, people, tools, etc; rather flow comes from your perspective… it’s about what’s happening inside of you rather than what’s happening around you
  • how to create more flow by using the 7 components of the lighthouse as a guide – i've got quick, simple ideas you can try right away, or save for the next time you are feeling like you haven't got a lot of flow happening

music messages

how does your intuition work?

i believe that we are all intuitive… it’s not something you have or don’t have. it’s more about your awareness, your understanding, and your capacity to explore & play with it.

as with most things on this journey, i feel like my intuition has unfolded and awakened in layers. when i was younger i can certainly remember distinct moments where i felt like my intuition was telling me something, but i didn’t grow up thinking i was a particularly intuitive person.

though i was very interested in exploring topics of spirituality, purpose, the meaning of life, etc. i didn’t really have the language or awareness to understand or explore my own connection to my inner voice/inner guidance system… or my inner light as i like to think of it now.

it wasn’t until the last few years – as i began to connect with more and more women who are intuitive, psychic, spiritual, sensitive – that i began to explore this in a bigger way. in fact my own exploration of spirituality – as a connection to something bigger within us and around us – prompted me to include it as part of the lighthouse framework… because i truly do believe it makes a difference.

around the time i started to explore my own spiritual practice i began to notice something… music was beginning to have bigger and bigger meaning in my life.

my whole life i’ve been a collector of quotes and lyrics… i have journals from when i was 16 years old full of music lyrics and quotes that were meaningful to me. and as the lighthouse revolution began to unfold i had started collecting and sharing music that epitomized the message i was wanting tell.

and then one day i was driving along and a song came on the radio that made me think of my grandma who had recently passed. i thought that was a nice moment to think of grandma. and then the next song had the same theme, and that made me take notice. i wondered – is grandma here with me? is she trying to tell me something? the next 3 songs contained a clear and powerful message for me – about something that i was really struggling with at the time. i just knew – in every fibre of my being – that she was there, telling me something.

it’s a moment i will never forget.

after that, the music messages started happening more and more often. sometimes it would be super obvious, sometimes i would just get a feeling to pay attention to a song… sometimes it would be a message for me, sometimes i would get a message for a friend and would pass it on by sharing the song with them.

and then one day i happened upon the amazing denise litchfield and her quiz about psychic strengths… turns out i am a ‘seashell’, which is related to clairaudience. i have never 'heard voices' so i didn’t think that could be me, but one of the things that she shares is that you might hear messages though lyrics! that was a big moment of permission and confirmation for me.

so i started being more purposeful my efforts – practicing... learning... acting like a 'seashell' – and now music is a big part of my own connection practice, as well as part of my distance reiki illuminate sessions. it’s made a huge difference to me to recognize how my own intuition works and play in the space of exploring and developing it.

one of the things i hear most often from my illuminate clients is how unique the use of music is in my sessions - they always say how spot on it is and how powerful it is, and many of them have an aha where they realize that music is one way that their intuition can work as well!

i don’t know about you, but i am horrible at visualization… if i do a guided meditation i can’t see a thing and no matter how much i have different practices i never ever “see” anything – which always use to frustrate me! not anymore… because now i know that’s not how my inner light works.

i do sometimes feel things & know things… that has become more pronounced the more i practice 'hearing' things... noticing the words, songs, lyrics that pop into my head, or sometimes into my path… i will go on instagram and get the same message from 3 different posts and i know to pay attention!

if you do denise’s quiz and discover you are seashell, or you simply want to play in the space of music messages, here are some ideas you can try.

  • pay attention as you listen to the radio.

if a song catches your attention, listen closely to the lyrics and consider what message they have for you. (you might need to jot down the name of a song and listen again later… i keep a notebook in my car for this very reason) as you begin to “notice” when a song catches your attention, that nudge to pay attention, also notice what it feels like. how do you know you are getting a message and not just hearing a random song… it’s all about awareness and exploration… just notice and keep noticing! keep a journal of your music messages… the more you keep track and keep noticing the stronger your connection will get.

  • create your own playlist

start collecting songsthat are meaningful to you (spotify is great for this, and free) – songs that make you feel great, songs that match your intentions, songs that fit with your mission/message/passion/purpose, songs that remind you of the you that you long to be. the more you become intentional with your music – purposely picking out and playing songs that are meaningful to you – the more you build that intuitive connection to music. i think of it as saying ‘yes please! thank you! more like this!!’ to the universe. spotify also gives you a ‘discover weekly’ playlist, based on your tastes, and i find this a great place to explore and find new music to add to my playlist.

  • let music be your oracle deck

consider one of your own intentions – something you are wanting to focus on or shift or explore – and ask the music for a message. here’s how i do it – i write in my journal whatever it is i would like some insight on and then i open my spotify lighthouse playlist. (it’s full of powerful messages & you can borrow it for this exercise if you’d like!) i choose one song that feels like a good starting point – it might match my question/intention or it might just feel like a great song to help me connect. make sure the playlist is set to random and as you listen to the first song of your choosing, let that be the time you pray for guidance/meditate on your intention/ask for insight. as you listen you can let your own inner light expand outwards to ‘touch’ the music or you can let the music sink in to your soul, or whatever you like… it’s really about adding the music to your connection practice, however you like to do it. then notice the next 3 songs that come on… you might want to have a notebook handy to make note of any lyrics. the message might not come through the lyrics specifically… the message could be related to the title, it could be related to a memory that pops up, or to something the song reminds you of, or how it makes you feel. the key is to pay attention to what pops into your head as you listen. i like doing 3 songs in the row, because i think 3 songs paints a total picture more so that one song alone.

  • bring music into your own daily practice

if you are into chakra work, oracle decks, essential oils, yoga, dance, or any other practice… choose some music to complement it... enhance what you are already doing with music! you might like to try out some kundalini meditations – i learnt about these first from gabby bernstein and her book the universe has your back, and it’s made a massive difference to me. i find guided meditations frustrating because i can’t picture anything, and i am not great at silent meditations, or meditations with lovely instrumental music. but when i started singing along to the kundalini songs/mantras i noticed a huge shift in my practice, and in my energy. you can start with my meditation playlist on spotify if you’d like.  

  • notice when music shows up in your life

if you are scrolling through facebook or instagram and notice a song recommendation or someone shares lyrics to a song, go give it a listen. if you are watching a tv show or movie and a song catches your attention, jot down some of the lyrics so that you can find it online and listen to it later. music happens all of the time in my world, and lots of it i don’t even notice. but when i do notice it now, i try to actually give it my attention… to honour the fact that it popped out at me and give it my awareness. do this especially if you have a random song (or earworm as they are sometimes called) stuck in your head – go look up the lyrics or have a proper listen to the whole song - there may be a message in that song!

  • let yourself feel the music

for so long i tried to ‘tone’ down my sensitivity… to not show my emotions when i felt moved by a song (or anything else for that matter!). the more i work with music – particularly as i have been sharing the music messages that come up in my illuminate sessions – the more deeply i feel the energy of the message. it’s pretty common now for me to get choked up when i share a music message with someone in a session, or when i get a message myself. i had to pull my car over the other day because i got such a strong three-song message it made me cry! and when i went to a recent adele concert i cried through nearly the whole thing… it felt as though i could feel the vibrations of the music, and the amazing vibes of the audience, all the way to my core. i just let myself feel it… i never would have done that before, but the more i let the music be part of what makes me me the stronger that connection gets.

even if music isn’t really your thing i hope that these ideas will still give you permission to explore whatever is your thing. we sometimes think that ‘intuition’ or ‘connection’ has to look and work a certain way – maybe because of how it works for someone we admire, maybe because of what someone has taught us or told us – maybe because we think we don’t really have it!!

but from my own experience i would say that there are NO rules here. you get to do YOU, your way! have fun… play… explore… give yourself permission to see what happens when you pay attention and take notice of whatever message your intuition is sharing with you.


i have 5 illuminate sessions still available this week... with a bonus custom essential oil blend to help you anchor into your intention for the month ahead. illuminate is a powerful combination of intuitive insight + energetic clearing + guided exploration to help you find and clear the resistance that blocks your path. click here for the details.

act as if

crickets.

do you know the feeling?

you share something… and nothing.

no readers. no viewers. no comments. no followers. no engagement. no traction. no impact.

crickets.

it can be such a discouraging feeling, can’t it?

you might start getting a case of the why bothers. you might start questioning your words, your work. you might even feel like giving up.

i get it. i’ve been there too.

but remember this… this quote from anne lammont that inspired this whole revolution…

“lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save; they just stand there shining.”

that’s the whole point.

you have to be the lighthouse.

you have to act as if.

as if there are 1000 boats, or 100 boats, or even just one boat out there, lost at sea, needing your light.

close your eyes. picture that one person out there… that one reader. that one listener. that one viewer. that one customer. that one future friend. that one like-minded soul.

what do they need to hear today?

you are not alone.

it’s going to be ok.

you’ve got this.

speak to them. talk directly to that one person. act as if they are already out there... waiting, searching, listening… show up for them.

and show up again. and again.

this little trick works when you are trying to overcome your own fear to try something new: to do your first facebook live, or to record your first podcast or youtube video, to start a blog or write a book, to send a letter to your tribe or post something vulnerable on social media.

it can be hard to overcome our own resistance, that voice in our head saying “who am i to do this? what if people don’t like it? what if i get crickets?”

we need a reason to show up and shine… let that one boat out at sea be your reason. focus on them. talk to them. shine out your light to them. act as if they are already there waiting for you.

this helps too if you are writing an article for someone else’s blog or website, speaking to someone in a podcast or interview, attempting to be published in a magazine or a collaborative book, even speaking up in a group forum. it can be hard to know what to say… what will appeal to someone else’s audience. instead, just picture your one boat out there at sea. talk to them. write for them.

the keeper of the beacon is the rockstar. to build up your resilience and overcome your resistance you need to tap into your inner rockstar… rock star energy is about standing, authentically, on your own kind of stage, singing out the song of your soul.

what would that mean to you? it doesn’t have to mean actually standing on a stage! it could be more like standing out on a street corner like an indie rocker playing to the beat of your own drum. or maybe it’s hanging up your work in a gallery, or adding it to the shelves of a library, or standing at the front of a classroom, or showing off your stuff in the pages of a magazine.

start acting as if right now. let your blog, your video, your email, your facebook, your instagram be that stage… and share yourself as though your audience, your boats, are out there already waiting for you.

here’s the thing we forget sometimes.

everybody starts at zero.

every single person you admire for shining their light in the world started at zero.

but it’s the people who keep showing up, keep rising up, keep trying, keep tweaking… keep shining… that grow from zero.

it requires tenacity, perseverance, resilience…  you need to build those foundation blocks up in yourself, ignore the crickets, focus on your one boat out at sea… and act as if you are already the lighthouse.

failure

it's my birthday week! (my dad taught me to do that… to stretch your birthday fun out for a whole week… it really is the best!) and i’m looking back at the past year, as we often do on our birthday…

i think i am feeling particularly reflective this year because last year my birthday was so momentous.

last year on my birthday i launched the kickstarter for my book lighthouse revolution! the kickstarter ended up being a massive success… i nearly doubled my goal with $9198 raised and 150 print books ordered. then i launched the kindle ebook with 1536 books downloaded in the 5 day launch and made it to #1 best seller in all of my categories. i also recorded the audio book, created the companion navigate guidebook, and ran a live ‘book club’ to implement the the ideas in the book.

it was a big year for the lighthouse revolution, accomplishing a long time goal of writing, publishing, and launching a book, not to mention everything else i have created, shared, launched this past year.

it is so important to celebrate your successes, achievements, and wins. not only does it help to keep your light ignited and your vibes high… but it is also an important mindset strategy. celebrating success trains your brain to believe that you are worthy and deserving of success.

but what do you do about all the failures?

what do you do about that list of things that didn’t work out or go well or get anywhere… those dreams you started the year with that fizzled or flopped.

sometimes even all the success in the world can’t take away the pain of the one thing you failed at,  or fucked up.

here’s what i am learning to do to as a strategy to deal with failure...

give everything you do, try, share, offer, or explore more than one purpose.

there is always the obvious purpose… for instance if you’ve created an offer to sell you have the purpose of earning money. if you’ve created a free opt-in you have the purpose of building your list. if you’ve filmed a youtube video you have the purpose of people watching that video! you’re probably tracking your sales, your list size, your views.

but what i am learning about me is that if that is my only purpose… or even if that is my primary purpose… it is so easy to feel like you’ve failed if you don’t meet your goal.

i need to give my efforts a bigger purpose than the obvious one.

perhaps my offer has the purpose of reminding people about my zone of genius, what i can help them with or the difference i can make. perhaps i can test out my wording or my imagery to see if it resonates. perhaps i can practice making the offer so that it feels authentic and fun and aligned. perhaps i can push out of my comfort zone and make my offer in new places. perhaps i can give myself the space to be creative, to brainstorm, to try out new things that might become part of my biz model.

if i can give what i do a primary purpose like that then i will still have accomplished so much even if i don’t make the sale, or get views, or get subscribers, or whatever else is the obvious purpose.

one of my strengths is creating things and getting them out there. i have overcome my old perfectionist tendencies and i am pretty good now at overcoming my fear, which means that i’m good at taking action and taking the leap and just making shit happen.

but my challenge is that if the stuff i create/ share/ offer ‘flops’ (i get crickets, no one buys, no one cares) i feel like i’ve failed… it knocks me right down, and i can get into a discouraged place… this place of ‘nothing ever lands’ and ‘maybe i should just give up.’

i always manage to bounce back, thanks to all of the self-leadership tools i have in my back pocket. but i also recognize that this pattern needs to change… i don’t want to keep taking that downward spiral where all i can see is lack.

one way i am trying to shift that pattern it is to give my efforts a bigger purpose. something that can’t flop: something like learning or noticing or exploring or testing or practicing or stretching.

that way, no matter what happens, it’s still a win.

there is still something to celebrate.

don’t get me wrong. a failure still hurts. it’s hard not to meet your goal. i think back to that kickstarter and i’m so very grateful to the 140 backers who made it such a huge success... and i am really proud of myself too. but what if i had failed? what if i hadn’t met my goal? it would have hit me hard, i know it... i wouldn’t feel proud of myself for having given it a go, i would just feel like a failure.

that’s why i want to shift that pattern. i don't want 'rock bottom' to be my go to place!

and you know, i think it’s not even about having strategies to ‘deal with failure’... it’s about finding ways to make failure not even a thing any more.

to find the successes in every effort. and to let those successes… even the small ones… be the foundation blocks we keep building on instead of letting so-called failures become wrecking balls that knock us down.

so that's my new strategy - giving my efforts a bigger purpose than the obvious, so that failure doesn't exist. 

how about you? how do you turn your failures into wins? what purpose can you give your efforts so that failure won’t even exist?


join us in the elevate circle where our theme in april is to #keeprising. we’ll be learning actionable strategies (practical, mindset, and energetic) to build resilience and tenacity. we’ll look at how to deal with the common stumbling blocks that knock us down like failure, criticism, comparison, and more. elevate is truly my most favourite place in the online space to hang out – incredible members, helpful strategies, inspiring action-taking…. we are there together doing the inner work AND the outer work to take our business to new levels. i’ve got a special 10 month membership on offer right now, and a special 1:1 biz coaching + elevate package as well, pop over to have a look and let me know if you have any questions about elevate. i would so love to help you keep rising. xo

keep rising

it’s a bit embarrassing to admit this out loud but i was totally wrong about the start of the year. and apparently i keep getting it wrong.

back in january i was all about chilling and dreaming and just BE-ing and it was an awesome month… mentally, emotionally, financially....

i declared, as i always do, ‘feburary the new january’… because that’s always my official start to my new year. and i was so ready.

but then february kind of sucked. a few things i wanted to focus on didn’t happen. business was slow. i didn’t really accomplish what i wanted to.

ok. no problem. we’re just getting started, right? so then i declared ‘march the new january’ and hit the reset button.

fresh new intentions. refocused energy and commitment. ready to make it happen.

and then march started out even worse! 

i had some big life issues to face. one of my projects was a massive flop. i completely shelved another project because my confidence was at an all-time low.

i’ve spent the better part of this month with a huge baditude that i just can’t seem to shake.

i know you know the feeling, because we've all been there... disappointed, dejected, disillusioned... beating yourself up, wondering if you should just give up.

it's not the best place to be. i'm so ready to leave this place.

i asked in a mastermind group that i am part of “can i make ‘april the new january’ or is that just asking too much?” i mean how many restarts do we get?

i got this great reply about how the astrological new year is march 20th... with the equinox. i liked hearing that! i feel like i have a great reason to start fresh with a new mindset and energy and focus this week. 

(i'm going to do our illuminate message today with this intention in mind - so stay tuned for that to get sent to your inbox or look for it here!)

but the truth is we get as many ‘restarts’ as we need. in fact, we get 365 of them a year... one every single day. we can decide… today is the day i start fresh.

today is the day i make a change.

today is the day.

but how?

that’s my focus now. how shift the energy? how do you deal with the shit that knocks you down? and how do you get back up again when you’ve been knocked down?

(ok, now i have that chumbawumba song ‘tubthumpin’ playing in my head… “i get knocked down. but i get up again. you are never gonna keep me down. i get knocked down. but i get up again.” not sure what it says about me that an old school, pub night, drinking song is inspiring me today... but it's a pretty good message, right?)

so how do you get back up again?

resilience? persistence? tenacity? fortitude? perseverance? strength? courage? 

grit.

(i like that word. it kind of says it all! it makes me feel like a fighter. it makes me feel like i can tap into my inner warrior and rise from the ashes.)

whatever you want to call it… we need to build it right into our foundation.

because the truth is, we all will fall. it’s part of the journey. getting back up again. and again. and again… is part of the journey.

at my kids’ school they teach students these ‘keys’ which include resilience, persistence, and confidence. i do find it slightly ironic that my 5 year old is telling me i need to ‘bounce back’ when i’m having a bad day!

but if the 5 year old can learn these tools, so can i damn it!

i intend to shift things this week. to have that fresh start. to indeed make ‘april the new january. and to begin again, and to carry on as i mean to go on.

and i intend to practice some actionable strategies to keep rising.

i would rather not ever spend another two months spiraling downwards. i would rather get better at bouncing back just a little more quickly, more effectively… get back up again, and keep going.

i would rather #bealighthouse than a crumbling old mess of 'giving up now.'

and so it is. i will keep rising. i must! afterall, i’ve got work to do in the world. there isn’t really any other option.

has your year been off to a rocky start? what is your best strategy for bouncing back or not giving up? what is the thing that most often knocks you down? do reply - i would so love to hear from you!


join us in the elevate circle where our theme in april is to #keeprising. we’ll be learning actionable strategies (practical, mindset, and energetic) to build resilience and tenacity. we’ll look at how to deal with the common stumbling blocks that knock us down like failure, criticism, comparison, and more. elevate is truly my most favourite place in the online space to hang out – incredible members, helpful strategies, inspiring action-taking…. we are there together doing the inner work AND the outer work to take our business to new levels. i’ve got a special 10 month membership on offer right now, and a special 1:1 biz coaching + elevate package as well, pop over to have a look and let me know if you have any questions about elevate. i would so love to help you keep rising. xo

be intentional

since starting my first biz i’ve always had a weird relationship with the word goals. and the word plans, for that matter. the thought of doing a business plan used to make my skin itch… i would picture this super boring, tedious document full of things that i couldn’t really answer, and didn’t actually care about, which just made me feel like a failure before i even begun.

eventually i realized i needed to create my plans my way and i embraced planning… though since i started the lighthouse revolution i prefer to call my plans ‘blueprints’ - they show me what i need to build in order to shine my light.

words have power: i believe that you need to choose the words and write the definitions that you align with, otherwise they do more harm than good!

goals is another one of those words that gives me hives. not that i don’t think it’s good to have goals – i do – i just see that word and i think of setting SMART goals (measurable, timelines, etc.) and immediately this sense of pressure weighs down on me, which automatically makes me start to prepare for failure.

the word that works for me right now is intentions.

i feel like this word is more expansive and also more inclusive: it could represent your goals, your plans, your resolutions, your dreams… the ideas you want to explore, the things you want to change, whatever you are wanting to focus on or develop… however you want to feel!

an intention can be for any part of your life, your work or biz, your home or self. it can be something big, something you have been wanting for yourself for a long time and you are finally ready to focus on it now, or it could be something small… something you just want to keep in mind for today.

an intention could be SMART if you want it to be – you could be very specific and set a time-line and track your progress – or it could simply represent something that you can quite put into words yet but you can definitely tap into what it would feel like, and focus on that.

and an intention is something that you set for your whole year, or for the month or week ahead, or for one day at a time, or for a single project you are working on, or for a strategy you are trying out, or for one of your offers you are making… for anything you’d like really!

it feels right to me, so it’s the word i use. but my whole point is: choose the words (and write the definitions) that work for you. it really does make a difference… words are powerful so choose wisely!

here are some things i am playing with to be more powerful with my intentions.

  • test out the wording to find what works best for you:

word your intention in the present tense, as though it is happening now ( i am, i have, i feel)

word it in the future, as though it has come true (it is Jan 1st 2018 and i…)

word it as a statement of gratitude, as though it has happened (thank you for/i am so thankful for)

  • anchor into your intentions:

write them down each day, write them over and over again

speak them out loud instead of just writing them down

choose an anchor - a physical represent your intention - and hang on to it!

  • be clear... as clear as you can be

what do you want? where are you going? who are you being? how do you want to feel? how do you want to spend your time? what really matters? and WHY?

  • create the blueprints or the map (or the plans!) for making your intention happen:

what steps do you need to take? what strategies do you need to use?

where is the resistance/the obstacles in your path? and how will you clear it?

what do you need to ignite or build up in you to make it happen?

  • find your circle:

share your intention with those who will stand with you in holding that intention, who will hold you accountable to be the woman you need to be for that intention to happen

show up for each other and in front of each other… both offering support and receiving it, holding the space for each other even as you take your own journey… because a rising tide lifts all ships

even with support, the bottom line is that no one can make your intentions happen but you. you must lead yourself, you must rise up by yourself, for yourself.

  • consider all of the components:

the lighthouse reminds me not to only focus on what comes easy to me, or what seems the most important thing right now, but that all of the components matter, and that all strategies (practical, emotional, mindset, energetic, etc.) are worth considering.

my intention for 2017 is to be/feel/act #unstoppable

my intention for the next round of lighthouse live is to have an #impact – supporting others, holding the space, teaching strategies, and offering a powerful framework to make their intentions happen… because incredible things happen when we each shine our light in the world!

my intention for this bog post is to share my own journey in the hope that it might be helpful to someone else… because while i haven’t figured it all out yet, i am willing to keep learning, keep exploring, and keep striving to #bethelighthouse

what intentions do you hold for yourself? how will you anchor into them? what will you do to make them happen? what is getting in your way?


our next round of lighthouse live starts on march 20th – join us with one of your big intentions in mind… we’ll work together over 10 days to create the blueprints and clear the obstacles so you can make it happen.

untangling energetic cords

people come into our lives for a reason. we experience the situations we experience for a reason. they offer us an opportunity to learn. they offer us a mirror… a way to look at ourselves and see what it is we are meant to heal, explore, or shift.

but what do you do when you’ve done the learning, you’ve explored your stuff, you’ve reframed the situation… and you still can’t seem to move on?

if you find yourself endlessly thinking about, remembering, obsessing over, being triggered by, or blaming someone else… or something else… then it’s time to cut the cords.

if you can’t seem to break an old pattern, change an old story, or start fresh with a new way of doing things… then it’s time to cut the cords.

no matter what kind of relationship we have with people or with the situations we face we form energetic bonds with them – and the more energy being sent between, the stronger those bonds form. (it’s a great lesson for us moving forwards to NOT obsess… all you do is strengthen the cord!)

so even if you have learned from it and you are ready to move on… maybe you’ve done some mindset work to reframe the situation into something more positive… maybe you have made some practical decisions to create some distance or change your re-actions… that energetic cord can make it feel like it’s still pulling you back in.

this is where it is useful to have some sort of cord cutting exercise or visualization in your toolkit… try out some different ideas to find one that feels right to you, or create your own! a google search on ‘cord cutting’ will give you all sorts of ideas… for instance you can ask archangel micheal to help you cut the cord with his sword.

i actually do a visualization that is more of an untangling than a cutting.

i like to picture myself standing tall like a lighthouse, beaming my light outwards. and i picture the other person/situation also as a lighthouse, off in the distance, doing the same… and all of our beams of light are entangled and twisted and knotted like strings of rope. i visualize pulling my beams of light back into my own lighthouse… as i breath in i suck my beams of light back into me, and as i breath out i blow their beams of light back to them.

you can listen to the short visualization below for the full process that i do – and please take the ideas that work for you, make it your own!

i like this visualization because it acknowledges that everyone has a right to be their own person, their own lighthouse, and you can’t actually change them… you can only change you. change your energy to disentangle from theirs.

it also acknowledges that the stuff that’s come up… the situations/words/behaviours/actions etc. that have triggered you in some way… have all happened for a reason. you were meant to learn, to grow, to evolve… and now that you have you can send that stuff back to whomever brought you the lesson.

i do this ‘cord untangling’ as part of my daily meditation practice, but it is a great visualization to do before you fall asleep or in any moment of your day if you feel sensitive to someone else’s energy or triggered by someone or something.

take the learning, leave the energy behind.

what strategies do you have for breaking energetic ties? it is a great idea to fill your toolbox with a variety of physical, emotional, mindset, and energetic strategies for the things you encounter on this lighthouse keeper’s journey.

your one big challenge

i have this theory.

i think that we each have one big thing to deal with in our lifetime… the big challenge we must face, the big question we have to answer, the big obstacle we have to overcome, the big lesson we are here to learn, the big story we have to write a new ending to… that one big thing that shows up again and again in our lifetime for us to work through.

i am pretty sure that my one big thing is about worthiness, because the story that seems to come up again and again is “i’m not enough” “this is not enough” “so it’s never going to land” – and just when i think i have cleared that block or changed that story, it sneaks back in again!

that’s the beauty of knowing your big challenge. by acknowledging it, we can more easily recognize it when it comes up again and again… and with that awareness, this big thing loses some of it’s power over us, some of it’s heavy weight.

it becomes just that thing we are here to do in this life time.

oh hey there BIG, persistent, thing… i see that you’re back again. ok then, let’s do this. i’m ready for ya, this time.

how can you figure out what your one big challenge is?

here are some clues…

that poor me/victim place that you go to when things get hard: why does this always happen to me? why doesn’t anybody ever…? when is it going to change? it’s so unfair! wahhhhh.

that situation that seems to trigger you every time, no matter how much you try to move past it: omg, i cannot believe that he said that… he did that…he made me feel like…!!!

that excuse you come up with to stay where you are: i want to, but… i would, except… i tried, but… that’s great for you, but my situation is special.

the pattern that you seem to play out over and over again: this happens, and then i do this, and then that happens, and then i feel like…

if you have a think about these clues and what they point to in your life, it might seem like you have more than one big thing (of course we face more than one challenge in our lifetime!) but if you start to dig a little deeper, explore a little further, and get to the core of those things you might find that in the end they all are pieces of the same puzzle… the same big thing.

and it might be really hard to figure this out about yourself at first. when we are deep in the trenches of our stuff we don’t always see the big picture created by all those little puzzle pieces.

but you can practice by becoming more aware of the people in your life… see if you can figure out what their one big challenge is. (it’s way easier to recognize this in other people because we aren’t so close to it, plus we are more naturally able to help others rather than help ourselves.)

you might notice that someone you love always seems to say: no one ever listens to me anyways, no one ever seems to care what i have to say about it. their big challenge might be around finding their voice or being visible. someone else in your life might seem to always find themselves in a pattern of people pleasing… maybe their one big thing to learn here is how to stand in their own truth, creating boundaries, or putting themselves first.

it’s actually very helpful to recognize the big challenge for the people in your life – not that you have to tell them what you think they need to do or help them to navigate it – but rather, it helps to see that we each are on our own journey. and to recognize that sometimes their stuff is indeed just their stuff - the stuff they are here to learn - and it’s not about you. it helps us to have compassion for others... even if we don’t want to be in the trenches with them and their stuff we can still let them go from a place of compassion.

plus, the more you can catch those clues in the people around you, the more you can start to catch them for yourself too.

once your own one big challenge makes itself clear to you, what do you do?

as i said, i think awareness is the key… with it, the energy around that big thing will begin to change. you will see yourself and your challenges a bit differently, plus you will be more willing to tackle this stuff head on when you know it’s what you are here to do… you will approach your challenges in a new way.

try to reframe that big challenge or big question or big obstacle in a new way.

so instead of always saying: when will i be good enough? when will this be good enough? when will it land?

i try to catch myself now and reframe those questions into the very thing that i am here to learn… i am enough just as i am. it is enough, it is landing… i see evidence of that all of the time.

i also believe that our biggest challenge... our deepest wound, our most persistent obstacle... is actually our greatest gift. it is when the tide is at its lowest that we can find the treasures in the sand. and it is through our darkness that we find our light.

i started the lighthouse revolution, not because i had magically discovered what i was here to teach in this lifetime, but rather because it was what i needed to learn myself. the lighthouse is what i needed in my own life & work to navigate my way through the darkness… i built exactly what would help me to clear my fog and shine my light. my effort to face my darkness head on has become the gift that i am here to share with others.

and so, facing your one big thing is indeed what you are here to do in this lifetime… why not face it head on? why not tap into your inner free spirit, your inner playful explorer/adventurer, and face it head on with a sense of wonder, of curiosity… ready to spiral with your stuff… to learn & grow… knowing that with each little step you take you are one step closer to your light.

what is your one big challenge for this lifetime?

#bethelighthouse and face it head on… it is only by shining your light on it that the darkness recedes and the gift is discovered.

leadership

as i was growing up, i was always told “you are a natural leader” by teachers, friends, and family so i guess it’s just become part of my identity.

i am a leader.

but lately i’ve been asking myself:

am i a good leader?

and what is leadership anyways?

when i teach about leadership in the context of igniting your purpose, sharing your mission, and serving others with your gifts i often tell people that leadership can simply mean that you are one step ahead on your journey… and you have the vision, the purpose, and the drive to take people along with you.

but recently i’ve wondered at my own ability to do that!

i’m involved in various groups and initiatives outside of my business and have lately been finding leadership in this context to very challenging.

managing a variety of stakeholders and differing opinions, dealing with negativity and conflict, realizing that some people have a different agenda or don’t hold the vision that you’ve brought to the table or simply don’t even care that much.

to be honest, it’s made me doubt my ability to be a leader.

maybe the only reason i was ever identified as a leader is because i am a natural action taker… i like to jump in and make sure shit gets done. and i am comfortable speaking up, being seen, raising my voice. the warrior & rock star energies are strong in my lighthouse! but there is more to leading than those qualities.

maybe the reason i have my own solo business is because i can’t actually lead any thing or any one but myself! my biz gives me a space to be autonomous, to do what i want to do without answering to anyone… and it’s easy in this context to focus on those with the same vision and passion as you and ignore the rest.

maybe i need to rethink what leadership means and what it means to be an effective leader.

i believe that the lighthouse offers a framework for self-leadership – a framework to find your purpose, speak your truth, build yourself up, take action, overcome resistance, and face darkness.

how does that translate to leadership of a group? are those the same things we must guide others towards if we are leading?

the things i value most highly are individuality, authenticity, and empowerment… that drive to light up, rise up, speak up… stand tall… shine bright.

shouldn’t i be better at helping others to do that?

in group situations i get so frustrated when people don’t take action. don’t speak up. don’t value other’s voices. bring negativity, blame, excuses, to the table. are inauthentic.

and those are clues. BIG clues.

because the very things that frustrate you from others are a sign of what you are good at yourself. when you look around the room and think “omg, why don’t they just xyz” – xyz is probably your zone of genius.

and just because these things come naturally to you, doesn’t mean they do for others.

remembering that, what can we do about it?

well, we lead.

we teach. we share. we explore. we allow. we foster. we ignite.

i think this is one of the things i need to do better as a leader – in fact all of us could do better at it, no matter where or how or who we are leading… in biz or in work or in our communities or even in our families…

focus not on our own strengths, but on the strengths of the people we lead.

recognizing what they are good at, tapping into their strengths/talents/interests/zones of genius in a bigger way…  allowing them to shine, their way.

and actually holding the space for that.

holding the space for differences, holding the space for others to rise up, holding the space for exploration and stuckness and failure… everything that happens on this journey.

maybe being a leader doesn’t mean jumping in and getting shit done… having all the answers, making all the plans, doing all of the talking and figuring and implementing…

rather, it means backing off and letting others rise.

and indeed, perhaps even fall.

i’ve been feeling like a failure as a leader, and that’s a hard pill to swallow. it’s hard to discover that who you thought you were may not be who you are at all. and it’s doubly hard to have a life purpose of empowering others to shine their light, only to find out you kind of suck at that in certain situations.

but if leadership means holding the space for others to shine, to rise up from the place of their own strengths, then perhaps i ought to hold that space for myself as well… permission to fail and to get back up again and do better.

so i shall keep working on it.

i shall show up and try again… try to be the lighthouse i say i want to be.

do you lead a community? a tribe? a committee? a group? a classroom? a circle? a forum? a team?

what does leadership mean to you?

and what do you find to be the most challenging part of it?

i would love to know.

jealousy

yesterday i was scrolling around aimlessly on facebook, as you do, and came across something rad that a fellow entrepreneur is offering.

i was hit by a wave of pure, green envy.

it was uncomfortable. my heart started beating quickly. my mouth went dry. my skin felt itchy. i oscillated between feelings of dejection (maybe i should just give up), despair (this is never going to be me), and defeat (everyone else is doing a better job already).

thankfully that wave of jealousy only lasted a moment: i caught it and i shifted things before i ended up on a bad downward spiral.

(this is what a self-leadership practice does… we don’t stop feeling those things. we don’t become perfect, shining lights. we don’t just magically become immune. but we do become more aware. and we gather tools to actually shift things.)

jealousy, envy, and comparison are actually very helpful things to experience.

because they are a sign.

a sign of what you want for yourself.

a sign of what is whispering inside your heart.

a sign of a direction you can go next.

a sign of something you need to work on.

a sign that there is a need for what you want to offer.

if you allow it, you can actually learn so much from your jealousy. catch yourself in the moment and say thanks to the universe for putting some very valuable information in your path! then study it – what in particular has made you envious?

was it…

the person? their authenticity, vulnerability, integrity, sensitivity, courage… something about the way they are raw, real, empowering, engaging?

the message? the clarity, creativity, humour, inspiration… or maybe it was bold, catchy, clever, concise, shocking, or ranty? what makes it resonate?

the item? the thing they are doing, offering, creating, promoting, celebrating, working on? maybe it’s their business model or their process or their focus?

the engagement? the support they have? the clients they work with? the affirmations of ‘yes please i want that!”? the testimonials? the partners they have found?

or maybe it’s something else?

think about it… we see eleventy billion images, articles, posts, comments, offers, promotions, etc in a day. most of them just skip by our view without triggering us in anyway.

if something does trigger you – well that’s worth exploring!

ask yourself: what am i meant to learn from this? what is this trying to show me?

in my case…

i was jealous of the offer – it was the exact focus and combination of things that i really want to be known for. i was jealous of the copy – it was clear and concise and spot on. and i was jealous that some people i know and truly value were commenting “omg i need this!”

this moment of jealousy showed me that i need to be more clear and concise about what i do and offer, and also step up my game to be more KNOWN for what i offer. it also helped me to realize what i want to spend more time doing for others, and that combination is indeed valued by people.

just recently i have felt insanely jealous when:

a friend was nominated for a ‘top entrepreneur’ list, someone i know produced her own oracle deck, someone i follow was asked to speak at a TEDx event, a friend asked another biz coach to be part of a new thing she was offering.

i learned from each of these moments more about what i want to focus on this year.

just as in the past i’ve learned, thanks to jealousy, that i wanted to write a book, that i wanted to speak at conferences, that i wanted to win an award, that i wanted to be a guest on podcasts and featured in magazines, and more!

jealousy can really show you some very valuable information if you let it!

watch for these thoughts…

i wish i came up with that

i wish they asked me

i wish i was doing something like that

i wish i had time for that

i wish that happened to me

i wish i said that

i wish they said that about me

i wish that was my idea

i wish that was me

that’s how we hear jealousy in our head... “i wish that was me”. and if we let it, that can quickly lead to “poor me” (dejection, despair, defeat).

or we can stop that downward spiral in its tracks and remember…

the light you see in others is a sign… it is a sign of the light that is in you.

so when you think “i wish that was me” be sure to look for the signs and listen to your inner soul whispering “it’s time.” 

#bethelighthouse


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the lighthouse keeper's journey

i didn’t know it then, but i started building my lighthouse in 2012. i was lost. i had no mojo. i was chasing around from one thing to the next, never really finding my way. and then this quote (by anne lamott) inspired me…

“lighthouses don’t go running all over an island looking for boats to save, they just stand there shining.”

in that moment i knew that that was what i wanted.

to stand there shining.

since that moment i feel like i have been on a mission to build myself a lighthouse. i started by igniting my spark – figuring out what it means to shine and what actually lights me up.

i brought teaching back into my life. i brought creativity back into my life. i started sharing more of me. i stepped up my own authenticity (which has always been important to me) and my vulnerability. i started peeling away new layers of my purpose and my why.

and that certainly made a difference. but eventually i began to see that there was still more to being a lighthouse than simply being lit up from within.

i had to build the whole damn lighthouse.

every part of it is needed, every component matters.

over the past 2 years i have been exploring the rest of that story… the rest of the lighthouse.

i have ignited my light; even further, by peeling away new layers of my purpose, my why, my strengths & gifts & zone of genius, my BIG vision for myself.

i have beamed my light out like a beacon; writing and launching my book, raising my voice and pushing out into new zones of visibility, vulnerability, and authenticity.

i have worked on my tower; over and over, experimenting and exploring, seeking and tweeking, working on what is the best vehicle for bringing my work to the world.

i have strengthened my foundation; building up my sense of worthiness, my confidence, my belief in myself, my resilience, my mindset.

i have used my spiral staircase; spiralling with all of my stuff: my fears, my resistance, my blocks, my patterns, my stories… i have experimented with ways to shift my stuff and to keep on marching.

i have found my harbour; i have learnt from the darkness, i have surrendered to the storms, and i have found my way back to my lighthouse again and again.

i have discovered the sky; i have played with my spiritual practice, connecting to the source of my light, connecting to my intuition and guides and angels and universe.

this did not happen overnight… this has unfolded over a 5 year journey. and my lighthouse is not perfect… it is a work in progress. the work is never really done.

i know this.

and yet i still feel a sense of frustration.

of “when will it land?”

or, perhaps ironically, “when will it take off?”

i have heard the call. i have taken the leap. i have shown up and shined my light again and again.

and yet still…

my business is not where i would like it to be.

my profits are not where i would like them to be.

my impact is not where i would like it to be.

my belief in myself and my work and my worth is not where i would like it to be.

my ability to smash through my upper limits and clear away the fog is not where i would like it to be.

my ability to rise up, and keep rising up, shining brighter and brighter for all of the boats at sea that need this message and the strategies and the healing and the community and the inspiration… well it is just not where i would like it to be.

and so today, i commit to taking this work on my lighthouse to a new level.

and so today, i am here to not just build my lighthouse…

but to embody it.

to BE the lighthouse.

to BE the highest, brightest version of myself.

to be “super soul 100” me – the me that is an “awakened leader, using my voice to elevate humanity” – helping people to be who they were born to be, and shining their light in the world in any way they choose.

to be “ted talk” me – the me that has an idea worth spreading, and is indeed spreading it far and wide

to be “top entrepreneur to watch” me – the me that runs a successful (financially and impactfully) business

to be lighthouse me.

it’s my time and i am ready…

i am ready to embody everything that i have been waiting for all this time… to rise up and reach great heights and act as if i was already lighthouse me.

i am ready to align all aspects of my biz & life & soul – to bring my financial success in alignment with the success of my mission and my message, my soul’s purpose and gifts, my service to others.

i am ready to anchor into deep, unequivocal knowing – to experience it in my heart, body, and soul – that it is landing, that that the light has come

i am ready to surrender my doubt, fear, and disbelief… my efforting and controlling and attachment to outcomes… and instead just show up and shine.

i know that there is a plan for me which is far greater than my own. i know that i am a servant of something much bigger than me… that i am here to simply contribute to a much bigger revolution… and so i’ve got to get out of my own way.

we’ve got work to do!

in 2016, after publishing my book, i got the tattoo shown in the photo, to remind me of my purpose. and rather than get an image of a lighthouse, i got the compass to remind me that the journey is never over, that every day i need to wake up and do the work.

this will be the theme of this blog for the year… real, raw stories about doing the work.

like you, i don’t have it all figured out. i am not where i want to be. but i am ready to take the journey… to keep showing up, keep rising up, keep lighting up.

that’s what self-leadership is all about. that’s what the lighthouse revolution is all about.

i am here to share my journey… the lighthouse keeper’s journey… in the hopes that something i share will inspire yours. thank you for being here, thank you for reading, thank you for shining your light in the world.

#bethelighthous

definition work

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this week, as i was getting ready to promote the new year’s offers for the elevate mastermind, i had a member of the lighthouse revolution… someone i respect and admire very much… comment that the word mastermind does not resonate with her. she mentioned that it makes her feel like she is not “enough” to be in a mastermind, and wonders if she is too introverted.

i really appreciated her comments as they reminded me to check in with that word myself! it’s amazing how we find ourselves using words just because other people do… without checking in to see if they even align. or we start out with words and then find ourselves out growing them. or we find ourselves being immediately turned off of words because of our own associations and stories.

webinar is one of those words for me. so is coach. so is hustle. they all do not feel right at all for me to use.

but then there are some words i love that i know that others don’t! journey, uplevel, and resonate are words i have heard other people be turned off of recently.

we really need to be intentional with the words we use... they do not have to appeal to everyone (in fact they shouldn't!) but they should absolutely align for you and you should know exactly what your words mean to you... why you are using them!

your words have power. choose wisely!

so thanks to my friend, i did check in with the word mastermind. i realized that it felt a bit more strategic, masculine, and ‘hard core’ than the group, elevate, itself feels. maybe it’s not a good match afterall?

i started elevate 6 months ago, and set an understanding with myself and the founding members that it would be a period of exploration – learning what we needed most, learning what would help us most.

i love the word elevate, because i feel like it can represent a variety of things we might need to do.

to get unstuck, rise above your blocks, don’t let anything stand in your way. to build up your mindset, be seen, be bold, stand tall, stand out, rise up. to raise your vibration, ignite your mojo, take courageous action. to play big, uplevel, expand out of your comfort zone, take your efforts to the next level.

and “mindset mastermind” is what it felt like in the initial planning stages. but what was it now?

i asked the elevate members. and immediately had the same feedback. mastermind wasn’t quite right. and the word that rose up, from the members themselves, is circle.

circle feels more feminine, more intuitive, more connected, more supported, and more safe. while we absolutely work on actionable, practical strategies and tools, we also have a very safe space to just be exactly where we are at, to spiral with our stuff, to explore and share… not just the strategic but the personal and the spiritual as well.

a circle feels like the perfect place to do just that.

my other word struggle has been how to describe what we do – do we work on building mindset? getting unstuck? feeling more ignited and on purpose? taking action? believing in ourselves? rising up and playing bigger and expanding out of our comfort zone? we do all of that! so what exactly do we call this circle?

mindset circle? unstucking circle? courageous action circle? support circle?

no no no. none of the words feel right.

and then, in the shower as so often happens, the word came to me.

self-leadership.

this word has been niggling at my mind for weeks. all through november and december and january, as i focused on completion of the old year and ignition of the new, this word has been tapping me on the shoulder. i liked it, but i had not taken any time to explore it.

so i sat down and did some research and then defined what self-leadership means to me.

awareness of who you are being and where you are going and why. speaking up and saying what you want. forging the path and building a life that you love. building yourself up and fighting for what it is you say you want. honouring your journey and a willingness to explore your stuff. acknowledging the darkness and working on your come back rate. a belief that this path is indeed worth taking, you are exactly where you are meant to be.

basically what the lighthouse revolution is all about! every component that we build up in our lighthouse is in fact an act of self-leadership.

it encompasses all of what we do in elevate – mindset, unstucking, action taking, exploring, connecting, and more.

and so it is. elevate: a self-leadership circle for women in biz.

and that feels so good! so right. it is exactly what we want in 2017.

definition work

in our spotlight session last month with amanda foy we talked about doing definition work... and i think january is the perfect time to do just that.

you have chosen a word for the year. you are setting goals and making plans. now what does that all actually MEAN to you? for you? be intentional about it! write your definitions.

there are so many words common in the biz and personal development space (i've listed some, but add to this list!) decide: what do these things mean to YOU? you can't stand in your truth and focus on your intention when it is not clear what that even looks like for you... that's how we get overwhelmed by the "should dos" and the comparison and the uncertainty and everything else that can get us feeling stuck.

success. balance. freedom. space. community. communication. connection. service. abundance. permission. spirituality. belonging. purpose. worthiness. safety. courage. uplevel.

you might also try defining your roles - you decide what to call yourself, and you decide what the definition is, or you make up your own words!

coach. teacher. leader. artist. speaker. author. mentor. guide. trailblazer. revolutionary. visionary. strategist. mother. daughter. sibling. partner. friend. volunteer. boss. colleague.

choose some key things to define for yourself for 2017. get out the dictionary and thesaurus if you have to. focus on the FEELING of the words for you. make up your own words if you need to.

your words have power. choose wisely!

ps i have some fantastic new year's offers on now to join us in elevate. click through for all the details... offers on only until feb 1st!

my word for 2017

a couple of years ago i was listening to a podcast by gabrielle bernstein where she shared that she had found herself in a place of being stuck in her head, stuck in her own stuff, stuck in future tripping, and her friend said to her: this is not your business, this is god’s business… you are a servant of something bigger than you… something fucking unstoppable.

in other words – she had to get over herself because she had work to do.

i fell in love with that message, and have shared it myself many times.

(each time i do, someone tells me that my language is inappropriate. sigh. clearly they do not know me well. first of all, i LOVE to swear… it feels great! it feels like me. and second, have you noticed the lack of caps around here? i don’t actually really care if anyone does not like my style of writing. i write like i talk. and i write because i love to explore and share and learn. if you don’t like it, don’t read it! right?)

anyway… i love this message and i love the word unstoppable.

before i saw gabby’s quote i actually had the phrase “unstoppable ninja” written up on my lighthouse walls. i had done one of those little memes on facebook that tells you your halloween name based on your birthday… mine was “unstoppable ninja” and i LOVED that.

but somewhere along the way i stopped feeling unstoppable.

i started feeling wobbly. i started to doubt my ability to bring this mission to the world in a big way. i started to feel frustrated with my progress and my level of success.

i am so ready to be done with that. i am ready to leave that all behind me… it does not serve my light.

so this is my word for 2017.

unstoppable.

it’s what i want to feel. it’s who i want to BE.

how? what will help me to feel unstoppable?

this is my plan.

i will embody the lighthouse.

not just talk about the lighthouse. not just build the lighthouse. but BE the lighthouse. with every action i take, with every bit of my focus, with my mindset… i will act as if i AM a lighthouse. (because i am!) and when in doubt i will ask: what would lighthouse-me do? (WWLHD?) and then act as if. i will foster a deep, unequivocal knowing, even deeper than belief, even stronger than certainty, that… it IS landing, i AM enough, it DOES make a difference, and the light HAS come. and i will act as if .

i will take care of me.

one of my friends reminded me of something very important… my body is the vehicle that allows me to do this work, to bring this mission to the world, to help ignite lights everywhere i go. i need to take care of it! omg - imagine how unstoppable an energetic, healthy, focused me will be? hell yes! i will take care of my body, i will take care of my soul, and i will make space for the stuff that makes me feel energetic, connected, and on fire! this is a new level of radical self-love.

i will show up.

i will fight for this mission… i will fight for the people who need permission, inspiration, and strategies to SHINE. i will fight for this business because the business supports the mission… the business has a purpose much bigger than money! i will build resilience so that every “failure” doesn’t stop me in my tracks… i will take what i need to learn, i will focus on all of the ways it IS landing, and i will have less attachment to specific outcomes because my efforts have a much bigger purpose than money… they are about so much more! i will work on my consistency… consistently showing up and shining, amplifying my message out to the people who need to see and hear it.  i will show up. and then i will wake up and show up again.

unstoppable.

this is my word for 2017.

what's yours? and what is your plan to get you there?

doors open this week to the 2017 elevate mastermind. join us and put your word, your plans, into action. be unstoppable, rise above anything that stands in your way.

permission to do the new year, your way

1.1.1.

it’s a big day.

it’s the first day of the first month of a new year… a ‘one’ year (2+0+1+7=1+0=1)… a new powerful beginning.

it feels pretty huge… like there is a lot of pressure to get it right. to do the right things. to have clear intentions. to stay in high vibes. to be focused on your goals. to get planning. to take action. to start as we mean to go on!

to be absolutely clear of the old and absolutely ready to ignite the new.

and i am a big fan of that, for sure. i’ve been working on a month of completion through december and am so excited to focus on ignition in january.

but at the same time i am going to cut myself a break.

i do not have to have everything all planned out.

i don’t have to have it all figured out either.

and i don’t have to have a perfect day today. or any other day of this month.

for me, january is a time to practice as a human BEing (rather than a human DOing).

in fact, my little rule in my life and biz has always been that febuary 1st is the new january 1st.

it works well living here in australia because january is our summer holidays, so the reality is that there is not going to be a lot of DOing this month anyhow, not until the kids go back to school on January 30th.

but the upside to this rule is that it takes the pressure off of having everything figured out and planned out and fired up and ready to rock.

instead, i can just be.

you can do it too – YOU pick the date you want for your new year to really begin. and from today until then, give yourself some space to just BE.

to remember what it feels like to BE you

to feel ignited and lit up from within

to be rested and inspired and happy

to explore and reflect and dream BIG 

to put yourself first

...the plans and goals and resolutions and intentions can all come from that.

try this...

here is a little exercise that i did yesterday on the final day of the year…

reflect on your road so far… reflect on the past year or 9 years (for 2016 is the end of a 9 year cycle) or reflect on whatever time period feels natural to you.

how would you describe that period? what were the big themes? what is the period that you are ending now?

and now, what is the period you are ready to begin?

what do you want this next period to be about? what do you want the new themes to be?

and how would you like to FEEL?

that’s probably the most powerful question you can ask yourself… when you think about the year ahead, how do you want to feel?

do something today that makes you feel like that.

say out loud: thank you universe, more like this please!

and when...

and when you do find yourself in the old patterns, stories, and beliefs that you thought you had cleared away… be compassionate with yourself! 

we don't have to be perfect. we don't have to have it all figured out. we don't have to be all ignited and shining bright all the time. it's ok to face the darkness... over and over again if we have to!

say “bingo! caught you sneaking in there. but here’s the thing, i don’t need you anymore.”

and then try to do something to switch the station. to feel the way you want to feel instead.

i declare...

so, i hereby declare january to be a month of ignition – but not in a go go go, do do do, plan plan plan, kind of way…

it’s more about feeling my way through, of focusing on me and what lights me up and what i want for myself, of giving myself a lot of self love and self compassion and self exploration, thinking about what it will mean to BE the person i want to be.

what will your january look like? when you think about igniting your year, what will help you to do just that? pop over to the #LHR community and share, i would love to hear from you!

the song i have been playing LOUD today is "this is the new year"... it get's me feeling ignited for this new year (and has inspired the image above.) what song is inspiring your new year?

endings & beginnings

i kind of love this time of year. aside from the excitement of the lead up to christmas, and for us here in australia, the start of SUMMER… i love the feeling of excitement that brews up for the new year.

normally at this time of year i just focus on riding out the end of the year and then i give myself some space through january to start thinking about the new year, and set february 1st as the official start of my year #becausefebruaryisthenewjanuary.

but this year feels different.

i can’t wait! i’ve already started creating my lighthouse blueprints for 2017, and i have also started thinking about what my word (and my focus) of the year will be. and along with that, i have a strong desire to close out 2016 in a big way… to not just ride it out but to give it some thought, some weight, some careful consideration and ritual.

maybe it is because in numerology, 2016 is a “9 year” - a year of completion, finishing out a 9 year cycle that started with 2008 – which was the year that i started my business! well the first version of my business, which of course was the beginning of a pretty incredible, transformational journey.

right now feels like a very good time to explore what i need to be truly finished with… what i need to release, forgive, learn, celebrate, shift… what i need to complete now so that 2017 – a “1 year” and a new beginning to a new cycle – is truly the start of something awesome!

i generally do an end of year reflection anyways – i always release, remember, and celebrate – but this year i want to up the ante. i am curious to explore some new strategies, rituals, and exercises finish off this year of completion in a fun and empowering way.

what else can i learn about this year of completion and the upcoming new year and new cycle? what will help me to both physically and energetically set myself up for the best possible shining year in 2017? what will feel like a fitting, powerful end to a 9 year cycle that began with a little spark to start a little business?

i feel like there is something bubbling up under my skin and in my belly. i’ve been feeling it for weeks now, but so far it’s been a bit like a mirage… if i look at it too directly it disappears. perhaps the way forward into this next phase of my journey is to start by first finishing this phase… with grace, curiosity, and understanding.

all weekend the song ‘closing time’ by semisonic has been playing in my head…

closing time, open all the doors and let you out into the world

closing time, you don't have to go home, but you can't stay here

closing time, time for you to go out to the places you will be from

closing time, every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end

i think it’s a sign! (music is always a sign for me.)

it’s time to create a powerful ending so that i may step fully into a new beginning.


would you like to join me in a month of completion... of closing the doors, not just on 2016 but this 9 year cycle... and of preparation for a brilliant 2017 and the beginning of our next cycle? this will be our focus for the month of december in the elevate mastermind. my aim is to share an awesome selection of both physical and energetic strategies for creating a powerful ending to this year so that we may shine even brighter in the next. click here to find out more about elevate.

it's time to show up and shine

i’m a seashell (according to my friend denise litchfield’s psychic quiz) which means that i hear messages from my intuition or from spirit (or however you like to look at it) - or i receive them in the form of words & phrases – no surprise that i have always been inspired by quotes and books and lyrics, i often feel like the message that i am supposed to get just pops out at me.

i’ve felt for a long time that i get messages from music (i share in the lighthouse revolution book a few stories about this) – certain songs will come on and i just know that they have a meaning for me or for someone else. it’s also the reason that i started a lighthouse revolution playlist when i was working on the book – so many songs popped into my life that added layers of meaning to the words that were already flowing. denise’s quiz confirmed to me that this was indeed a thing (it’s nice to have that kind of confirmation) and ever since having that confirmation, messages have been coming in fast and strong through music.

this weekend i have experienced a series of these moments all pointing to one clear message… and while i feel like that message is certainly for me, i also feel like it is for you as well… like i am meant to share it with our community of lighthouse keepers. as soon as i heard each of these songs it felt like my heart was cracking wide open… i felt each song so deeply that it made me cry, and it makes me cry even to type this message out now.

so here it is, this is what we all need to know right now…

it’s time for us to get over our shit, because the world is waiting on us to show up and shine.

from shine by anna nalick

It’s strange how soon you forget
That you're like stars
They only show up when it's dark
Cause they don't know their worth

Isn't it time you got over
How fragile you are
We're all waiting,
Waiting on your supernova
Cause that's who you are
And you've only begun to shine

then from dog days are over by florence and the machine… (i’m re-interpreting her lyrics here for the way the message came through to me)

Run fast… for everything that matters to you
Leave all your stuff behind you
Can't carry it with you if you want to shine

The dog days are over, The dog days are done

lastly, from tell your heart to beat again, by danny gokey

Tell your heart to beat again
Close your eyes and breathe it in
Let the shadows fall away
Step into the light of grace
Yesterday's a closing door
You don't live there anymore
Say goodbye to where you've been
And tell your heart to beat again

Beginning
Just let that word wash over you
It's alright now
Love's healing hands have pulled you through
So get back up, take step one
Leave the darkness, feel the sun
'Cause your story's far from over
And your journey's just begun

3 days in a row. 3 songs with a very clear theme. 3 reminders of this one simple message for all of us.

it’s time. the world is waiting on each of us to shine. we need to clear away the resistance, the blocks, the excuses… the fog (of doubt, fear, lack, etc.) that is clouding up our windows. we need to move on to the next steps in our journey.

i don’t know about you but i’ve been feeling a bit bored of my own shit… like seriously over it. like “that’s it. i am so done with this. i am ready to step up… i am ready to move on. it’s my time and i am ready for the next step.”

how about you?

maybe this is the sign you've been needing... the reminder that you are here for a reason... the permission to stand tall or rise up in some way... to get over yourself and just do it already. 

the world is waiting on you.


i would love to help you move past your resistance and clear away the fog... to get unstuck or to ignite your light once again. click here for new 1:1 session options.